In our experience it’s rarely one thing that signals the end of a marriage. Rather than a monumental argument, it’s likely to be a gradual build-up of problems and issues over a period of time.
Based on our years of experience, we’ve compiled a list of seven tell-tale signs that a marriage is no longer working.
Spending time apart
If you’re spending more time away from your spouse, effectively running parallel lives, then you might want to ask yourself why. If it’s because you actually enjoy spending time apart and feel a sense of relief when you’re away from your partner, you might end up thinking about whether being married to them is what you want.
Lack of responsibility
Dealing with infidelity during a marriage or relationship will undoubtedly be hard, but it can be overcome with professional help. However if there is no remorse or acceptance by the person who has cheated, then it will be virtually impossible to move forward.
Disinterest
If your partner is no longer interested in what you’re doing and it seems like they just don’t care, then it’s a sign that something isn’t right. Similarly if your partner is no longer the first person you want to share something with, it may be worth considering why this changed and what you want in your future.
Communication
Aside from the day-to-day talk about what’s for dinner and who’s picking up the kids from school, relationships thrive on good, open communication. But it’s the meaningful conversations that count – being able to share problems and dreams without the fear of being judged. When you’re no longer really talking with your partner, feelings of emptiness and loneliness will start to appear and the connection and emotional bond you once had is likely to go.
Is the grass always greener?
If you’ve been going through a particularly tricky period of conflict, you might already be imagining a life without your spouse, where you feel happier, less stressed and more energised. If this is the case, then it’s a sign that you’ve emotionally already left the marriage.
Giving up
It might be that your partner refuses to go to counselling or won’t even talk through your problems. If one of you has already given up on the marriage, then you won’t be able to save it single-handedly. And even if you do go to couples counselling, if one of you really doesn’t want to make the marriage work, then it’s time to walk away.
Lack of physical contact
A lack of any physical contact between you and your husband or wife should start alarm bells ringing. Little intimacies, such as kissing, holding hands and cuddling, go a long way in helping a marriage survive and ensure you both feel loved and supported.
If you are worried that your marriage may be at an end, we are here to help. To speak to one of our friendly solicitors for a confidential chat give us a call today on 01423 594680.
Laura Mounsey is a family lawyer with experience of working on cases involving properties, trusts, businesses and pensions. Laura is a dedicated and talented lawyer who has been recognised with a “Safe Pair of Hands” Award.
Everyone’s circumstances are different and this article is provided by way of general information only and must not be relied upon. If you require legal advice on a family law issue, please feel free to contact us by emailing enquiries@harrogatefamilylaw.co.uk.
