Gaslighting

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Are you the victim of controlling behaviour that leads to you questioning yourself and certain events and even questioning your sanity?

You could be the victim of ‘gaslighting’ and this is a form of domestic abuse that is a criminal act in England.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse, where a person manipulates another person into questioning their thoughts, memories and events that happen around them. This can lead to depression and anxiety and other long term serious mental health issues.

Harrogate Family Law can help victims of gaslighting by identifying patterns of behaviour, highlighting your options to resolve the situation and helping to put a roadmap in place to safeguard your physical and mental wellbeing.

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What are the signs that I’m a victim of gaslighting?

Although gaslighting is a form of manipulation, it is not always intentional on the part of the perpetrator. However, where it is intentional, Harrogate Family Law can help you prove this and take steps to escape the situation. Gaslighting can include trivialising your thoughts, denying events, diverting discussions or the perpetrator turning events round to make them the victim and your behaviour unreasonable, when the opposite is actually true.

Gaslighting can occur in any kind of relationship; at work, with parents or friends, but most commonly in a relationship between two partners. The signs that gaslighting is taking place are that:

  • You feel like a different person to previously
  • You suffer from anxiety and a loss of confidence
  • You feel like everything you do is wrong
  • You are always apologising for something
  • You find yourself making excuses for your partner’s behaviour
  • You feel isolated from friends or family

How can I resolve a situation where gaslighting is occurring?

People who gaslight another person are often an expert at ‘pushing the right buttons’. This can be a studied and strategic form of emotional abuse and can be hard to escape, even when you have recognised it is happening.

Gaslighting is controlling behaviour similar to coercive control, and as a form of domestic abuse it is a criminal offence in England if you fear it can lead to physical or sexual abuse, or if the behaviour is unreasonable to the extent that you are affected emotionally or physically.

Harrogate Family Law have experts in this complex area of the law and we can help you identify that gaslighting is happening, put support systems in place and initiate a criminal investigation where necessary.

Contact Harrogate Family Law today and we can help you and your family escape controlling behaviour and safeguard your mental and physical health.

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