Following on from last week’s blog, read on to find out more about how to take back control when you are separating.

6. Be honest. Be ready.

 You don’t have to put on a brave face.  If you are struggling, make sure you get the support you need and that your lawyer is aware of how you are feeling.  You need to be emotionally ready if you are to make important decisions about you future and if you are not in that place don’t pretend to be

 7. Remember your children love you both.

 It sounds obvious, but it is important to remember this during this very difficult time.  Don’t say anything bad about the other parent to the children or when they are around  The children will thank you and respect you for this in years to come.

8. The new normal.

Change is never easy at any time but adjusting to becoming single again can be very hard. Do things you have never had chance to do, join clubs or take up a new hobby.

9. Pick the right lawyer for you

It is vital that you seek expert legal advice at the earliest opportunity from a specialist family lawyer before making any important decisions about the future.  It is also vital to pick the right lawyer for you.  Here at Harrogate Family Law we listen, we care and we understand.  We will be on your side throughout to support you and to help you avoid making mistakes which cost you time, money and stress.

10. Look to the future.

Finally, it is important to look forward.   Where would you like to be in 12 months or 5 years?  It can be a difficult question to answer and something that we will help you with.  We will work with you so that you can not only see the light at the end of a dark tunnel but make sure you are happy and financially secure in the new phase of your life.

Here at Harrogate Family Law we are family law specialists.  If you are considering divorce or separation contact us today to see how we can help you.  Our number is 01423 594680.

Carol Jessop is an experienced family lawyer specialising in finding practical solutions to resolve complex financial arrangements, protecting assets and obtaining emergency orders to provide personal protection or prevent the removal of children.

Carol has over 30 years’ experience in family law and is recognised by her clients and peers as highly knowledgeable and compassionate.

Everyone’s circumstances are different and this article is provided by way of general information only and must not be relied upon.  If you require legal advice on a family law issue, please feel free to contact us by emailing