When parents separate there can be issues over the arrangements for children and, in particular, how your children’s time will be divided on special occasions such as Christmas.
Research has shown that the memory of how a child first learns about their parents’ divorce tends to stick with them. This is why it’s worth spending a bit of time discussing how you’ll break the news. It will undoubtedly be one of the most difficult conversations you have as a family but, if dealt with carefully, it can smooth the way for greater understanding and easier co-parenting in the months and years that follow.
What happens when your ex wants to move away with the children – perhaps also with a new partner – and you object?
Introducing a new partner to your children can feel like a daunting task. What if your children don’t like them? What if they get upset? What if they feel you are trying to replace their other parent?
Following on from last week’s blog, read on to find out more about how to take back control when you are separating.
1. Time: the greatest healer?
You may find yourself in shock. This may be a position you never thought you would end up in. You probably have no idea what to do. It sounds like a cliché, but time really is a great healer. It is also important to make some time for you. Do things you like doing and make an effort to put yourself first as much as possible.
When parents separate and can’t agree the arrangements for their children, it can be difficult for grandparents to see their grandchildren.
Divorce or separation is difficult for everyone involved. For adults, aside from the emotional aspect, there are practicalities such as money, housing and of course the impact on their children.
It is natural to be worried about where your children will live and how much time they are going to spend with you after divorce or separation. Children living part-time with each parent, known a shared parenting arrangement, is becoming more common although this isn’t always practical.
There can be genuinely held concerns about the welfare of the children whilst away on holiday and, if so, it is right that these are investigated so that there can be confidence that the children will be safe.