When a relationship breaks down and parents separate, children can be left feeling very confused, upset and conflicted.

You may find your child says they don’t want to see you.  There can be a number of reasons for this.  They may feel guilty leaving the other parent, they may simply want to play with their friends, they may blame you for the change in family circumstances or they may be told unkind things about you from their other parent.

The reason for the breakdown of a relationship should have no impact on your children’s relationship with you or their other parent.  However, you may find that sometimes the child will place blame on one parent.  This may be, for example, the parent who leaves the family home.

What can you do?

This will depend on how the other parent is acting.

If they are encouraging the child to see you and contact is continuing, it can be advisable to give your children time to adjust to the new situation and work hard to build a strong bond with them.

However, if your ex is not facilitating contact between your child and you, encouraging your child to see you or is actively encouraging their refusal to see you; then it is best to get urgent specialist family law advice.  It is important that your children do not become embedded into a routine that does not involve spending time with you.  It is also very important for their emotional wellbeing and development to enjoy quality time with both of their parents.

How we can help

We are specialist family lawyers who are dedicated to helping families find sensible ways forward that place the focus on their children.  We will:

  • Listen to your worries and concerns
  • Help you and your ex engage in meaningful conversations regarding the care of your children
  • Guide you with a child focused approach
  • Support you through this difficult time
  • Find a solution

To speak to one of our friendly solicitors for a confidential chat give us a call today on 01423 594680.

Laura Mounsey is a family lawyer with experience of working on cases involving properties, trusts, businesses and pensions.  Laura is a dedicated and talented lawyer who has been recognised with a “Safe Pair of Hands” Award.

Everyone’s circumstances are different and this article is provided by way of general information only and must not be relied upon.  If you require legal advice on a family law issue, please feel free to contact us by emailing enquiries@harrogatefamilylaw.co.uk.